Success is ...? You Decide!

Who defines “success”? Our parents, society, our peers? The truth is, each of us have a choice to define what success is for us. It’s not a one-size-fits-all kind of thing, however, it’s likely that most people are living with an idea or belief of what success “should” be.

Try this:

Write down a list of things that feel like success to you. Perhaps, financial freedom is part of your list AND what else is on there? Deep relationships? Great sleep? Success is unique to each person because we have unique values, interests, and goals!

What’s important is that you know what success feels and looks like for you. If you don’t define it, someone else or something else will.

Here’s what feels like success to me right now with who I am right now:

Blessing and savoring my food

Helping someone see their worth

Calling my parents to catch up

Running in a beautiful place with Kyle

Being a mother

Seeing my family often

Clarifying my zone of genius

Practicing gratitude daily

Being able to buy fresh food

Building a business that serves my highest calling

Being able to sit still

Know what feels like a Yes and No in my body

Listening generously

Being present on phone calls

Feeling energized each morning

Finding my routine with sleep/wake up

Having friends over for a homegrown dinner

Having beautiful rituals for each season

Being able to speak my truth

Your turn, what is success to you at this stage in your life? Go!

5 Mistakes to Avoid When Writing Your Vision

Creating a vision from the future is crucial for creating the foundation for our goals. They are powerful vehicles for guidance and growth. Often they look like a glance into the future or a snapshot of our life that serves as a north star to direct us on our way.

To do this we must recruit our imagination. Visions often include a setting we’re in, something we see or hear, perhaps other people, and give us insight into what we’re up to in the future.

As you cultivate your own vision-writing practice, keep in mind these 5 mistakes to avoid.

1 - Planning. Avoid using your planning brain. In our mind today we can get hung up on so many limitations. Instead use your imaginative brain and leap wayyy out there - ten or even 20 years- and open to what is possible for you and your life there.

2 - Fixing. You are already fully enough. No amount of vision work will replace feeling worthy and whole now. A vision doesn’t aim to “fix” our lives in any way, it serves to inspire and excite us so that we can take the actions aligned to it.

3 - Forcing. Avoid writing your vision when you’re anxious, depressed, sad or simply not feeling your best. Give yourself time and space and be mindful of soul-touching glimpses and downloads from the universe in random moments.

4 - Oversharing. Only share your vision with people who have the capacity to see it with you. I believe visions are beautiful and sacred so treat yours with tender love and care. <3

5 - Grasping. Holding on too tightly. There have been times where I became too attached to my vision and caused a lot of undue suffering. This is a beautiful practice of seeing it, creating it, feeling it and then holding it with open hands.

Coaching Builds on What's Already Working

One of biggest reasons effective coaching works is that it builds on what is already working in your life. As we begin a new year, you may feel a push to set new goals and improve yourself. I encourage you to pause and note where you’re spreading winning and what’s already working.

• Which activities, habits, decisions, etc. are working for you (no matter how seemingly small they may feel)?

• Which areas of your life feel successful and fulfilling?

• Did you try something new last year that worked out well?